How did you balance breastfeeding a new baby with an older sibling?

Silver Spring, MD
Breastfeeding Challenges

Finding ways to make an older child feel included can be one of breastfeeding’s biggest emotional challenges. You want to welcome your newborn to the family without making your eldest child feel isolated or left out. As one couple discovers, breastfeeding can actually nurture an older sibling’s relationship with the baby and other family members. See what happened when they introduced their eldest daughter to their youngest.

Keri's Tips

  • Let your pump run after your session. “I’d unlatch the flanges and let my pump stay on for a little while after my session to clear out any extra condensation."

  • Find shortcuts. “I always kept the cooler set on hand. You pump and put your bottles in the freezer, which saves you a step. Then you can thaw them out for the next day, or maybe just put them in the fridge if you’re using them right away the next day.”

  • Involve your older child. “Find ways for older kids to be involved with the baby so they don’t see nursing as time taken away from them. I’d let my oldest help burp the baby or have her snuggle with me and the baby so she felt like a part of it, too.”

  • Ask for help earlier rather than later. “I struggled with tongue-tie for weeks on my own. A lactation consultant came in and it gave me immediate relief. I wish I hadn’t waited so long to ask a professional.”

  • Recruit a friend to demystify the process. “My friends helped to show me the ins-and-outs of pumping. It was less intimidating to have someone right there showing me how to set it up, clean it, and give me their tips and shortcuts.”

  • Once your latch is good, start pumping. “With my second child I pumped a lot earlier. I knew I wanted to make sure I had a healthy stash not just for returning to work but to get my own personal free time and let my husband pitch in earlier on.”

  • Know there are great products. “With tongue-tie, I was in need of a lot of healing and relief. The Tender Care™ Hydrogel Pads and Nipple Shields were key for recovering and getting back to nursing.”